{"id":13926,"date":"2022-08-22T08:47:50","date_gmt":"2022-08-22T08:47:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dumitra.net\/blog\/?p=13926"},"modified":"2023-06-08T16:18:24","modified_gmt":"2023-06-08T16:18:24","slug":"viata-e-mereu-singura-urgenta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dumitra.net\/blog\/?p=13926","title":{"rendered":"Via\u021ba e mereu singura urgen\u021b\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Deun\u0103zi, la o coffee talk cu o prieten\u0103, sporov\u0103iam c\u0103 nicic\u00e2nd n-au fost mai evoluate femeile ca acum, c\u0103 tr\u0103im o epoc\u0103 de gra\u021bie \u00een care ne putem afirma curajos \u00een orice zon\u0103 de via\u021b\u0103, chiar \u0219i \u00een cea erotic\u0103. C\u0103 nu mai a\u0219tept\u0103m s\u0103 ni se dea \u0219i nici s\u0103 fim validate, ci plec\u0103m singure s\u0103 revendic\u0103m ce ni se pare c\u0103 poate fi (\u0219i) al nostru. \u0218i c\u0103 prietenia dintre femei tinde s\u0103 aib\u0103 o combustie vindec\u0103toare, mai ales acolo unde cuplul clasic-ortodox \u201del-ea\u201d pare s\u0103 e\u0219ueze sau s\u0103-\u0219i arate limitele. \u0218i nici nu se stinge bine ecoul panseului meu c\u0103 seara, \u00eentorc\u00e2ndu-m\u0103 la carte, dau peste pagina asta &#8211; jur c\u0103 n-am citit-o \u00eenainte! &#8211; \u00een care zice: \u201dLa fel cum nu ne putem \u00eenc\u0103p\u0103\u021b\u00e2na s\u0103 cunoa\u0219tem un tiranozaur fiindc\u0103 ne-a fost dat s\u0103 tr\u0103im, probabil, \u00eentre dou\u0103 ere glaciare, vou\u0103 v-a fost dat s\u0103 tr\u0103i\u021bi \u00eentr-o epoc\u0103 \u00een care femeile sunt mai evoluate dec\u00e2t b\u0103rba\u021bii. (&#8230;) Sunte\u021bi mai de\u0219tepte, CV-urile voastre sunt mai bune, sunte\u021bi mai preg\u0103tite din punct de vedere emo\u021bional&#8230; c\u00e2t despre supravie\u021buire, nici n-am ce s\u0103 discut.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ei, poftim! Cartea este o dulce evocare a prieteniei a cinci femei, cu vie\u021bi \u0219i pove\u0219ti tr\u0103ite carnal \u0219i visceral, care se \u00eent\u00e2lnesc \u00een flor\u0103ria \u201dGr\u0103dina \u00cengerului\u201d din Cartierul Literelor din Madrid. Cinci femei de v\u00e2rste diferite, \u00een fiecare joi, \u00een jurul c\u00e2te unui pahar de vin alb, \u00eentr-o ser\u0103 \u00een care \u0219i florile au propria lor simbolistic\u0103 \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu \u201durgen\u021ba vie\u021bii\u201d; fiecare cu istoria ei de via\u021b\u0103, \u00eemp\u0103rt\u0103\u0219ind tr\u0103irile \u0219i g\u00e2ndurile cele mai profunde. Pentru fiecare, prezen\u021ba celorlalte e vindec\u0103toare \u0219i vital mobilizant\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Niciun aspect de via\u021b\u0103 nu scap\u0103 din c\u0103tarea pove\u0219tilor lor: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>cum realizezi \u0219i mai apoi cum te vindeci de dependen\u021ba de cel\u0103lalt &#8211; \u201dsindromul femeii copilot\u201d: hipersensibil\u0103, susceptibil\u0103, indecis\u0103, instabil\u0103, nesigur\u0103\u201d, <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>cum faci fa\u021b\u0103 \u201db\u0103rbatului de cauciuc\u201d, care acum \u00eenainteaz\u0103 \u00een rela\u021bie-acum d\u0103 \u00eenapoi \u201dp\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd a reu\u0219it s\u0103-\u0219i recupereze prada: aproape purt\u00e2ndu-se tandru, aproape spun\u00e2ndu-i c\u0103 o iubea, aproape suger\u00e2nd c\u0103 era \u00eendr\u0103gostit de ea. Aproape\u201d, <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201dsindromul superwoman\u201d, care-\u0219i trimite singur\u0103 flori la birou pentru a mima existen\u021ba unei rela\u021bii \u0219i a sc\u0103pa de judecata celorlal\u021bi, <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201dsindromul parazitului\u201d: el sau ea care se hr\u0103nesc din via\u021ba celuilalt, din energia lui \u0219i transform\u0103 sl\u0103biciunea acestuia \u00een propria-i putere pentru a-l p\u0103stra al\u0103turi cu orice pre\u021b, chiar \u0219i cu cel al rela\u021biei e\u0219uate, <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>neputin\u021ba de a spune \u201dTe iubesc\u201d, <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201dsindromul femeii omnipotente\u201d, <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201dsindromul femeii suferinte\u201d, <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>compatibilitatea sut\u0103 la sut\u0103 cu partenerul t\u0103u, dac\u0103 ai \u00eent\u00e2lnit-o, dac\u0103 exist\u0103, cum o recuno\u0219ti. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>E \u00een carte un buchet de teme din actualitatea femeii (nu \u0219tiu dac\u0103 \u0219i a b\u0103rbatului), disloc\u00e2nd aspecte de sub inciden\u021ba c\u0103rora nu cred c\u0103 scap\u0103 nicio de\u021bin\u0103toare de vagin, preocupat\u0103 de devenirea ei social\u0103, spiritual\u0103, independent de cuplu, de partener (da, \u0219i de partener\u0103), de copii, de \u00eendatoririle sociale, de chestiunile pe care trebuie s\u0103 le \u201dfaci corect\u201d sau \u201dcum se a\u0219teapt\u0103 de la tine\u201d. Din perspectiva asta, o carte \u00eendr\u0103znea\u021b\u0103, lejer-v\u0103ratic scris\u0103, dar care s-ar putea s\u0103 te afunde \u0219i mai mult \u00een chestiune dup\u0103 ce-o sf\u00e2r\u0219e\u0219ti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ca una care \u0219i ea a fost supus\u0103 ne\u00eemplinirilor proiectate de p\u0103rin\u021bi asupra ei, rezonez cu multe dintre temele c\u0103r\u021bii, dar poate cel mai puternic cu: \u201dCasandra vorbea de instinctul matern amor\u021bit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>-\u00ce\u021bi dai seama? mi-a zis lu\u00e2ndu-m\u0103 de bra\u021b. Mamele din genera\u021bia noastr\u0103 ne-au extirpat instinctul matern din diverse motive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>-Da, \u00een cazul meu, de team\u0103 s\u0103 nu devin ca ea, am afirmat nevenindu-mi s\u0103 cred ceea ce tocmai rostisem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>-Iar \u00een cazul meu pentru c\u0103 mi-a fost \u00eentip\u0103rit\u0103 ideea c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 am succes \u00een cariera mea.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218i-mi mai place, ca oric\u0103rei femei, de altfel, s\u0103 cump\u0103r flori, s\u0103 plantez, s\u0103 primesc, indiferent care ar fi expeditorul (dar mai ales acela), pur \u0219i simplu, f\u0103r\u0103 motiv&#8230;  Asta tot mamele noastre ne-or fi inoculat-o? \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E prima carte a Vanessei Monfort, proasp\u0103t\u0103 voce a literaturii spaniole contemporane, care-mi pic\u0103 \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103. Dac-a\u0219 judeca-o \u00een siajul ultimelor c\u0103r\u021bi care mi-au trecut pe sub nas, a\u0219 nedrept\u0103\u021bi-o s\u0103 o etichetez ca lejer\u0103. A\u0219 zice mai degrab\u0103 c\u0103 e pl\u0103cut \u0219i efervescent citibil\u0103, cu chestiuni care nu las\u0103 rece nicio o femeie. De asta sunt sigur\u0103. O carte de d\u0103ruit, dar, mai cu seam\u0103, de citit. \u00cen orice caz, o carte care-\u021bi reaminte\u0219te &#8211; pentru c\u0103 deseori o uit\u0103m &#8211; c\u0103 e musai s\u0103 ne concentr\u0103m pe ceea ce avem, nu pe ceea ce am pierdut \u0219i nici pe ceea ce credem, sper\u0103m, c\u0103 ne ofer\u0103 viitorul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A\u0219a e, <strong>Carpe diem<\/strong> toat\u0103 ziua. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Vanessa Montfort, Ed. 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