{"id":13361,"date":"2022-03-01T15:42:43","date_gmt":"2022-03-01T15:42:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dumitra.net\/blog\/?p=13361"},"modified":"2022-03-01T15:48:34","modified_gmt":"2022-03-01T15:48:34","slug":"o-palma-sau-un-sarut","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dumitra.net\/blog\/?p=13361","title":{"rendered":"O palm\u0103 sau un s\u0103rut?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u201dC\u00e2nd petrec zile \u0219i zile \u00een mijlocul textelor \u00een care se pune doar problema calmului, contempla\u021biei, renun\u021b\u0103rii, mi se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 s\u0103 vreau s\u0103 ies \u00een strad\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103-i sparg fa\u021ba primului trec\u0103tor… A\u0219a a notat \u00eentr-o zi moralistul Cioran \u00een jurnalul s\u0103u.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Da, oamenii sunt astfel f\u0103cu\u021bi \u00eenc\u00e2t excesul de Yin \u00eei face s\u0103-\u0219i doreasc\u0103 Yang: prea mult zah\u0103r te face s\u0103 vrei sare, prea mult soare te face s\u0103 vrei ploaie, prea mult\u0103 tandre\u021be te face s\u0103 vrei asprime, m\u00e2ncarea prea mult\u0103 te face s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dore\u0219ti s\u0103 poste\u0219ti; prea mult pozitiv te face s\u0103 vrei negativ…C\u00e2nd fiicele mele erau mici, le-am oferit \u00een fiecare an, de ziua lor, s\u0103 petrecem o zi \u00eentreag\u0103 \u00eempreun\u0103, tat\u0103-fiic\u0103, f\u0103c\u00e2nd ce vor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Drept urmare, m-am trezit la Eurodisney \u00een fiecare an, pentru c\u0103 asta mi-au cerut: o zi la Mickey’s. Bun\u2026Aceste zile \u00eemi r\u0103m\u00e2n \u00een memorie ca amintiri frumoase \u0219i fericite. A fost minunat s\u0103 fim \u00eempreun\u0103, eu cu fiecare dintre ele, s\u0103 ne plimb\u0103m pe alei, sc\u0103lda\u021bi \u00een z\u00e2mbete, minun\u0103\u021bii \u0219i bun\u0103 dispozi\u021bie, mereu \u00eenso\u021bi\u021bi de o muzic\u0103 delicioas\u0103 \u0219i siropoas\u0103 … Ei bine, la sf\u00e2r\u0219itul zilei, petrecusem un moment delicios \u00eempreun\u0103; dar am avut, dup\u0103 aceast\u0103 supraexpunere la vat\u0103 de zah\u0103r, Coca-Cola \u0219i o lume fermecat\u0103, o dorin\u021b\u0103 aprig\u0103 de a m\u00e2nca c\u00e2rna\u021bi \u0219i de a bea vin ro\u0219u, de a spune cuvinte grosolane \u0219i de a da cu piciorul \u00een co\u0219urile de gunoi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Aveam poft\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentorc la via\u021ba real\u0103. Cea \u00een care exist\u0103 adversitate, cea \u00een care ne izbim de real \u0219i unde ne r\u0103nim uneori. Via\u021ba real\u0103, cea \u00een care nu avem de ales, cea \u00een care negativul ne ajunge mereu din urm\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 fie nevoie s\u0103-l chem\u0103m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Adversitatea este chiria vie\u021bii. Ce altceva putem face dec\u00e2t s\u0103 o \u00eenfrunt\u0103m, s\u0103 o accept\u0103m \u0219i s\u0103 trecem peste asta? Apoi revenim, c\u00e2t de bine putem, la fericire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Personal, a\u0219 prefera s\u0103 nu trebuiasc\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 bucur de beneficiile negative. A\u0219 prefera s\u0103 \u0219tiu c\u0103 adversitatea \u0219i \u00eencerc\u0103rile exist\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 a fi nevoit s\u0103 le experimentez. A\u0219 prefera ca oamenii pe care \u00eei iubesc s\u0103 nu se \u00eemboln\u0103veasc\u0103, s\u0103 nu fie neferici\u021bi ori r\u0103ni\u021bi, s\u0103 nu moar\u0103. Asta mi-a\u0219 dori.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dar nu func\u021bioneaz\u0103 a\u0219a o via\u021b\u0103 uman\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cu siguran\u021b\u0103, exist\u0103 beneficii ale negativului, exist\u0103 \u00een mod evident o \u00een\u021belepciune a nenorocirii \u0219i a adversit\u0103\u021bii: a \u0219ti s\u0103 o recuno\u0219ti, a \u0219ti s\u0103 te hr\u0103ne\u0219ti cu ea, a \u00eencerca s\u0103 \u00eenve\u021bi din ea, a te str\u0103dui s\u0103-i supravie\u021buie\u0219ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dar prefer \u00een\u021belepciunea fericirii, s\u0103 o savurez, s\u0103 m\u0103 preg\u0103tesc pentru zilele proaste. Aceast\u0103 \u00een\u021belepciune nu este at\u00e2t de u\u0219oar\u0103 \u0219i evident\u0103 pe c\u00e2t pare. Autorul grec Xenofon, \u00een tratatul s\u0103u despre educa\u021bie intitulat Ciropedia, a fost cel care a notat acest lucru \u00een urm\u0103 cu aproape 2.500 de ani: \u201eEste mai greu s\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2lne\u0219ti un om care s\u0103 poat\u0103 suporta fericirea dec\u00e2t nenorocirea\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dificultatea de a suporta fericirea sau chiar evocarea fericirii… Acesta a fost, poate, cazul lui Cioran, ale c\u0103rui remarci le-am citat mai sus, \u0219i pe care textele senine \u00eel f\u0103ceau s\u0103-\u0219i doreasc\u0103 s\u0103 ias\u0103 \u00een strad\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 p\u0103lmuiasc\u0103 trec\u0103torii.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u00cen ceea ce m\u0103 prive\u0219te, supus \u00een fiecare zi unor valuri de \u0219tiri \u0219i informa\u021bii \u00een care este vorba doar de violen\u021b\u0103, moarte, pandemie, atacuri \u0219i nedreptate, \u00eemi vine uneori s\u0103 ies \u00een strad\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219ez toate fiin\u021bele omene\u0219ti.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Articolul l-am tradus de pe blogul Psycho Actif a lui Christophe Andr\u00e9 https:\/\/www.christopheandre.com\/<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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